I think one of the best techniques to use when approaching women is the direct approach.
Being direct from the outset communicates a lot of good things.
Plus, if you do it smoothly (as I will layout for you below), it is easy and women respond REALLY well to it.
By the end of this article you’re going to know exactly what to say when approaching a woman directly AND why these exact words work so amazingly well to being a conversation.
Why be direct?
It displays confidence, builds self-esteem, is chivalrous (girls like that) and trustworthy…AND is freeing for you.
Freeing? Yes, freeing.
In this day and age, it is not normal to be direct. It’s been slowly taught out of us. First, by our parents, then by our teachers, and most recently, by dating coaches and seduction gurus preaching DHVs, LMR and Opinion Openers…
I grew so weary of the mass amounts of “approaching women” techniques and gimmicks that I developed a very simple, elegant and smooth way of approaching women in any/all circumstances.
“I noticed you from across the cafe, and I had to risk complete embarrassment to meet you. My name is Stephen”
Yes, it’s a big time rush to do this but once you see how women respond to it, you will never go back to another technique.
I remember the first time I did this, I approached a woman at a hotel bar in Manhattan (I was waiting for a client). When I approached her, she first peered up at me suspiciously. Then, I dropped the line…she smiled, relaxed and turned her body language to me (this is always a true sign of being “in”).
When my client came in a few moments later, he saw me chatting up this gorgeous woman (I definitely had his full attention for the rest of the day). I secured her number, casually exited the conversation and KNEW I had an awesome tool at my disposal.
Now, no technique is 100% effective but this one really works well. Here’s exactly why:
- You aren’t overtly hitting on her. All you say is that you “noticed” her which always piques her interest. Inevitably, she will reply to your statement with “Well, what did you notice?” (so, be ready for that).
- You pace the reality of this being slightly awkward and different when you say “risk complete embarrassment”. She will relax when you say this as it confirms to her that you are aware that this is not the norm. (Pacing is a very powerful tool btw, so use it at anytime when the conversation gets awkward or there is an uncomfortable silence.)
- You tell her your name, which is polite WHILE patting yourself on the back a bit by honoring the fact that this is a “risk”.
Does this phrase automatically insure that you get a date with her? Of course not. But it does guarantee that you get a conversation with her around 90% of the time.
Being direct conveys a lot of REALLY GOOD things to women.
Try it, it works!
Oh, and if you want to listen in as I demonstrate this direct approach, click the link to my podcast episode on the topic.
PS – And, yes, it does call for a bit of gumption…but, if you aren’t approaching women or regularly challenging your comfort zone, I’ve got an important question:
Hows That Working Out For You?