I devour books, and so should you. I worked with an awesome guy over the weekend, and I recommended a few great books to him to read to further his studies of social dynamics, masculinity, dating & relationships. I decided then to post a list of these books, for your interest. YES, I recommend some books […]
As a dating coach, you’d likely think that most of the guys I work with are very different, diverse, experiencing very different challenges vis-a-vis women and dating. If that’s what you think, you’d be wrong…very very wrong.
It’s truly amazing how each of the guys who come to me tend to struggle with the exact same things.
And, very regularly, the solutions to what they struggle with are usually the same as well. It has caused me to think that there is a true epidemic of fear and insecurity within our male population, which is usually the root cause of his struggles with women.
Do you live in NYC? I do (Brooklyn) and have for nearly 20 years. Well, that is except for the time I spent in LA for Project Hollywood. Anyway, NYC rocks for culture, sport, nightlife, career…but it totally sucks for dating, and as an NYC Dating Coach, I see the effects first hand in the […]
Everyone has a blind spot. And in the area of dating and women, many men have very prominent blind spots. By definition, we might be unable to diagnose ourselves. But, if we can generate an interesting discussion on blind spots we have noticed in OTHERS, we might be helped to take a different look at […]
I had this GREAT question in my email this morning from a guy questioning how to talk to women on the phone. So many guys get flustered and freaked out when they have to place that first call to a woman. What do you say? What do you talk about? How do you transition into […]
I was working with a client 2 weeks back, and he had a common question that I thought might be of benefit… Here was his question, and do you relate? Are there SIGNS she gives when she wants you to kiss her? I bet you have had this question flash through your brains at least ten […]
What does your body language say about you? When you walk into a room, what do you think people “read” from your body language?
Try this out the next time you are with people (perhaps you are right now?…), notice their body language, and see what impression they create on you.
One VERY common challenge that many new guys face in the dating scene is the dreaded flaking.
This is when a woman cancels on your late minute, or even worse, fails to show up (easily the most frustrating thing that has ever happened to me!).
Ever find yourself waiting for your “late” date at the restaurant, wondering if she is even going to show?
Life is short. It takes balls to live the life you deeply feel is your own. It’s OK to be afraid. It’s not OK to let it win, or much less, let it win day, by day, by day, by day, by day…
It is a question of carving out some space of your own or morphing yourself into the tiny space given.
You are either a force, or a consequence.
What are you?
In socializing, and in particular with women, you have to be willing to take up space.
Being confident enough to take the spotlight for a minute or two is strong and healthy. You must be willing to do this.
In the beginning, it might be uncomfortable but it does improve over time.