I like metaphors.
And in order to make sense out of this tip, I need a metaphor to start with.
Imagine you want to plant a beautiful tree. You would first need to find a perfect spot for this tree, and (as we say down south) “till the soil” before planting.
Over the period of a few weeks, this would prepare the ground for the seed to grow into a healthy sapling, and further on, into a strong and stable tree.
Giving value is HOW to till the soil of relationships. Giving value is also how to be successful with women.
Make sense? Maybe not (yet).
Most of the guys that struggle in meeting women and dating are surprisingly SELFISH.
Surprise. And, yes, this (might) mean you.
The guy who is afraid to mingle with his friends after work, who won’t go to the party, who holes himself up with his video games and chatroulette, who quietly suffers his lonely pain…is – very often – a SELFISH guy.
Which is why, when I tell him (or you) to GIVE VALUE…he raises his eyebrow in confusion.
NOT giving yourself to life, fully and completely, is the ultimate selfish act. And men are doing this all over this country, and world, right now. They withhold their true gifts to live mediocre lives.
They hold back on taking real risks in life because they are too afraid. They refuse to face the fear because it is uncomfortable. This is selfish.
Giving value starts with giving YOURSELF to your LIFE. You can’t accomplish anything before this. And, you certainly cannot meet interesting women and forge a healthy relationship before this either.
Stop doing this – PLEASE!
Give value everywhere. Give your attention. Venture into the world and till the soil of your life. Do the stuff that you love to do (an example of giving value). Take a risk (another example of giving value). Take a trip (value!). Do something interesting (value! value! value!). Then…tell someone about it and inspire them to do the same!! (value x value x 100000000!!!!)
The most selfish guys are the most BORING guys…and women don’t like that.
Value begats WOMEN.
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