“You never get a second chance at a first impression?” How many times have you heard that expression?
It’s probably doubly true with women.
Learning how to make a good first impression on a girl is super important. Very attractive women are highly skilled at “reading men”, and for good reason – they are highly sought after.
From the moment a person first meets you, they form strong assumptions based solely on the way you look and present yourself.
I realize that this negates all of those wonderful things you have going for you on the inside.
But the reality is, my friend, a person meets the outside first – THEN the inside…
In my experience, when a person first meets you, you will be slotted into one of three categories:
1) Your impression is average (this is probably most of you). People will not form a strong impression of you. There is potential for you to be forgotten and fade into the crowd of everyone else. However, you are deemed suitable for continued interaction. Hopefully you can make up for lost ground in the long-run.
2) You make a negative impression. The person who you have just met decides to keep communication with you at a minimum. It will be very difficult, if not impossible, to build a relationship with this person.
3) You make strong first impression. Wherever you go, people take notice. You are admired and looked upon as a valuable prospect. At this point, people will work for your attention.
Stop. Imagine walking into a room and meeting yourself for the first time. Which category would you put yourself into?
If you’re not in that third category, you’re not doing enough. Why shortchange yourself?
We consistently meet guys who have great personalities and have a lot going for them. These guys have a lot to offer women, but they simply have no idea how to present that in a powerful, attractive way. Mastering this would instantly help them feel better
about themselves, and would fill them with confidence, dramatically increasing their likelihood of success!
First impressions are basically formed through three basic channels, they are: clothing, body language, and vocal tonality.
Do you want to make good first impressions? Do you want women to notice you, approach you, and even chase you? Want to have a successful career and social life? If so, then pay attention to these three things… and own the power of your first impression!
The good news is that these three qualities are easily improved and you can start working on them immediately.
The first thing to get a hold of is your style of dress and grooming. This is one area where you can really hit the cover off the ball.
The second is body language. What does yours communicate about you?
Do you project power and confidence? Why not?
Keep your head held high, looking people in the eye at all times. Always hold your gaze a second longer if you happen to make eye contact.
Never look down and away if someone addresses you or is the slightest bit intimidating. This is a sign of weakness. Pay attention to this, and eliminate this negative habit.
Can you even picture someone as dominant as Arnold Schwarzenegger or JFK doing this? Not in a million years!
Another trait men like this have in common is all their movement is deliberate and confident.
You’d never see a powerful CEO making erratic gestures like biting his nails, fidgeting, or using broad hand movements to articulate his speech. Stay calm, cool, and collected.
Avoid doing these things: always placing your hands in your pockets, constantly fixing your hair, tugging at your collar, checking your watch every minute, and scratching.
Be precise as a lab scientist when using body language.
Lastly, your voice. Do you stutter in situations where there is the slightest bit of pressure? Or do you project a manly, confident tone delivered slowly and smoothly.
A weak voice is a certain sign of low self-esteem. Speak up and make yourself heard!
When making a first impression, remember to smile. This helps your vibe become friendly, confident and approachable. People are more likely to want to talk to you if they sense they will be received well.
With the combination of improving these three small areas, you will be well on your way to success.
For additional reading, check out this important post on female psychology to peer into the mindset of a woman and why she screens out certain men and gives others the keys to the kingdom.