Hi there –
I realize I haven’t posted here in some time, so I wanted to get you a complete update as to my current activities and to invite you to connect with me on another platform.
As you might know, I’ve been married for a few years now and, last May, my wife and I welcomed our beautiful baby daughter into the world. (millions of pics here)
So, focusing on or thinking about dating is very much in the rearview mirror for me. I do still teach and coach dating advice, particularly as it relates to the broader question of becoming attractive (or, in my parlance, becoming my most fully expressed “self”).
We tend to define this syndrome of lacking in dating success in various ways (“insecure”, “shy”, “unconfident”) etc, but the truth is that each of us is looking to simply become more fully expressed as the truth of who we are. This, and only this, will attract to you the right kinds of women for you to date and, eventually, have a deep and powerful relationship with.
It’s an inside job, in other words, and guiding men in that process remains a passion of mine.
My wife, Theresa, and I have started a new business, it’s called “Ownstream“. For years, I have been fascinated by the broader movement towards more freedom and empowerment in life and find myself specifically drawn to people carving very unique paths in the world, vastly different than the mainstream way of living and being.
Thus, the name…Ownstream.
The business for now is both a platform for these powerful freedom seekers in the form of a podcast, a place for my wife and I to further our work as coaches in the area of lifestyle redesign (primarily), dating and relationships, and – for Theresa – coaching people on their diets. (If you are interested in any of that, feel free to click here to learn more and fill-out an application to work with us). If you want to sign-up for our mailing list, you can do so here.
Also, with our daughter and amazing dog “Magic”, we are currently converting a 2005 Dodge Sprinter Van into a camper with the intent of traveling through the west for an indefinite period of time this summer and fall. If this interests you at all, check out our video tour of the van (pre build) and our Instagram page where we will be chronicling the process and subsequent journey. Also, we have recently recorded a podcast all about WHY we are doing this and that can be found here.

Me, my wife Theresa, and our baby Sofia
Much of my writing nowadays is all about helping people find their true calling and allowing our lives to become a pure reflection of that. What I have found is that this simple question of “what is my calling?” releases a previously unknown excitement, which – when allowed to flow into my life – enables all sorts of magic, coincidence and empowerment. It’s the ultimate dating tip: become who you are.
It’s a process, a journey, for sure. But, when engaged, it leads to all sorts of unique expression and authentic individuality – something most of us deeply, and often secretly, crave.
Otherwise, I still feel that my eBook and audio programs provide everything you need to improve with women and dating. And, if you need/desire my direction as a coach, we can explore that together still here or on the Ownstream platform, here.
I sincerely hope you are enjoying your life’s adventure, and all of the remarkable beauty in the world at this special time.
My best!
Stephen Shelley (aka Stephen Nash)