Looks don't matter, but, your “look” does. Looks are what our genetics have given us, which we have very little control over. Guys who are blessed with good looks are said to be “genetically attractive”.
I have also met others not so genetically fortunate who have massive success because they understand what looks good on them, and how to present themselves in an attractive way. Why is this scenario so advantageous when looking to improve with women and dating?
OK – so the only reason I am posting this is because the guy said I could, and this came totally unrequested…this totally made my day. This is a recent seminar testimonial I received, from a program given a few months ago here in NYC . These are his words: Stephen, Hey guys, just wanted to […]
One of the biggest challenges men face, particularly when they lack a healthy dating and social life is neediness. For needy men, even a small sign of affection or interest from a woman can immediately fire off signals of panic & loss…simply because he lacks both internal validation (most important) and a healthy supply of external […]
Style (Neil Strauss) was in New York in September to promote his book “The Game”. He asked me to say a few words about Project Hollywood. Unfortunately, I did not have enough time to get to my Top 10 list (below). But, I did save it and I think it's pretty funny even if slightly […]
A bit of a departure today, as I want to cover briefly a topic which BAFFLES MOST guys.
Part of my work is in helping men both feel and LOOK their best. So, part of what we do with guys is help them with style and fashion challenges.
MOST guys I see have haircuts which simply don't look good on them. A crime, which is easily fixed…
One of the most frustrating scenarios that many men face in the dating game is when a woman won’t call you back… You’ve worked up your nerve to call her, left a killer message (if you do say so yourself) only to find days passing without a return call from her. There is certainly a […]
“Let’s meet for coffee”, you say. “Sure, sounds great”, says she. “See you at 8pm.” “Great, see you then.” You hang up feeling elated at having confirmed a date with this gorgeous, fascinating woman. You will take her out for coffee, hoping the conversation will be terrific. You hope this leads to a solid connection […]
Would you be surprised to hear me say that the best way to meet women has nothing to do with “pick-up”? In fact, it has very little to do even with approaching women or lines, tactics and gimmicks. No, the best way to meet women is to cultivate an overall, healthy lifestyle and social circle. […]
I sort of discovered this skill by observing naturals in action who seemed effortlessly good at attracting women.
I noticed that they never really ask questions (unless they want to) and have what is often referred to as “the gift of gab”.
What they do is quite simply TALK – they are telling someone, indirectly, who they are.
It happens every day, right?
You are on your way to work, occupied with the day ahead, and then she appears, she is right in front of you, and for a moment you feel an impulse to say something.
If you are like most guys out there, you say nothing, she passes you by and you are left wondering…what if?
