What does your body language say about you?
When you walk into a room, what do you think people “read” from your body language?
Try this out the next time you are with people (perhaps you are right now?…), notice their body language, and see what impression they create on you.
(Don’t think – just make a quick, snap judgement)
Do they appear strong, confident, driven or motivated?
Or, do they seem meek, timid, confused & LOST?
Can you see a parallel with these ideas and the ideas of being attractive vs. unattractive to women?? If not, let me spell it out for you.
Guys who have strong, confident body language are ATTRACTIVE
Guys who don’t, are UNATTRACTIVE
Go to a mirror and see for yourself – what kind of body language do you have? And, if you can’t tell, ask the hottest woman you know…she will tell you.
Learning how to attract women with body language is hugely important – particularly when first meeting a woman, or on a first date.
Making a solid, positive, confident first impression on her is make or break and your body language is a huge part of that.
How to Attract Women with Body Language – The Specifics
Answer these questions regarding your body language:
- Are your shoulders slouched, or are you upright?
- Do you walk with your head held high, or do you tend to look down?
- Are you regularly relaxed or nervous/uptight? (Women sniff this one from miles away)
- Is your breathing fairly even throughout the day?
- When you sit, again, are your shoulders slouched over at your desk or at the table?
Most important – when you are around attractive women, does your body language CHANGE relative to the above questions?
If you are curious about how to attract women with body language, a very careful study of your postures in different circumstances will pay enormous dividends.
I remember working with a client of mine a number of months ago who was very interested in how to attract women with body language. We were in a lounge area, and were enjoying some drinks before going out.
I pointed out to him that his body language was pretty closed off – arms and legs crossed – signaling to others that he was not approachable, and was not interested in meeting anyone new.
He agreed to try a little experiment, and change his body language. I told him to uncross his legs, and, more importantly, to uncross his arms. He did, and commented that he felt “weird”.
A few minutes later, a stunning blonde approached us to ask directions to a club two blocks away. Within minutes she, and her gorgeous Spanish friend, were sitting with us having a blast.
Later on that evening, I asked Ms. Stunning Blonde why she asked us for directions. Her answer?
You guys seemed so open. I also thought your friend was cute, so, you know, what the hell!
What the hell…
The point of this article is not to convince you that having perfect body language forever ends your challenges with the opposite sex.
What it IS intended to convey is the importance of body language and how other people, unconsciously, read it and form impressions about YOU.
If you want more confirmation of this, check out the body language of most of the hottest stars in Hollywood, like Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt or Will Smith. See how they stand and carry themselves – with power, upright, always looking people directly in the eye.
Now imagine them with a slouch, head down, shifty-eyed – creepy isn’t it??
If you carry yourself with power, other people will assume that you OWN that power internally. If you look them in the eye when you speak, they will assume that you have something of VALUE to say!
Mastering your own body language is critical to your success with women. If you communicate to them that you are insecure, unconfident, and have low self-esteem you will see a LOT of ass…walking away from you.
RIGHT NOW – check your posture. Are you filled with confidence and direction?
Do this a few times per day. This will help you understand what you unconsciously broadcast to other people. Also, does your body language change when around attractive women?
It is first critical that you are aware of what your body language says about you, then it is up to you to take the necessary actions to fix it.
For further reading, I’d recommend my signature post on female psychology. In it, I discuss the nature of attraction and how various aspects of masculinity can be learned and developed in order to wildly improve our attractiveness to women.
Hope this helps!