One of my favorite topics for guys is how to be romantic with women, but with power, clarity and confidence.
When you begin to live a life of purpose and power, the old behaviors you used to think were “needy” now become “attractive”. It’s less about the behavior, and more about YOU: your vibe, and how you ARE with women.
For many of us though, when confronted with the notion of romance, or being “romantic”, we get insecure & nervous just at the site of the word.
In truth – these are the guys who need help the most.
Romance is hard because it forces us to open and vulnerable.
Yet, if done from a powerful, authentic place, it can be extraordinarily attractive.
Most guys watch a cheesy movie, and cringe at the site of red flowers, or a guy proposing down on one knee. But, in the mind and heart of a woman, this kind of action can melt her causing her to want you more than a box of chocolates.
Before we continue, realize that all women want to feel special. They want to feel like you acknowledge her as the one and only.
And, if you have ever really loved a woman, in your heart of hearts, you certainly DO feel this way. As guys though, we struggle to express this.
Men like to live in the heads, and women like to live in their hearts. Neither is “better” than the other, but this simple difference is the reason there is so much confusion and poor communication between the sexes.
So, if you want to win a woman’s heart guys, you’ll have to show her yours. Here are some ideas to help us get over the romance hump and express ourselves with authentic, masculine power.
How To Be Romantic – 3 Specifics
1) Avoid the Obvious
Trust me, if you give your lady flowers, she probably isn’t going to toss them in the trash. But, if you use your imagination and creativity a bit, you can come up with something a bit more personal.
The old adage “it’s the thought that counts” really applies here.
If you give viagrabuynow her something that proves you understand her, and that you listen to her, you’ll score major points. So, think about who she is and what she likes.
I had a friend whose girlfriend enjoyed live music, so he spent $20 and downloaded a live concert from her favorite band onto her iPod.
She was totally thrilled, and felt appreciated because he had paid attention to her tastes in music.
2) Spend Less, not More
If your woman wants to see the price tag for your efforts, tell her to hit the pavement. Seriously.
The days of guys wooing women with their dough is long gone. I always advise guys to spend less $, and force yourself to be creative and think outside of the box.
Preparing a home-cooked meal is WAY better than taking her out to the nearest restaurant. A relative of mine recently compiled the many photos of he and his girlfriend together, and converted them into a calendar to hang in her apartment.
These ideas cost little to NO money. Far more impressive, and romantic to pay attention, and not cash.
3) Open Up and Tell Her
So many of us in relationships forget how lucky we are to be connected so intimately with another person. How often do you simply reveal your true feelings?
If you resist this, that’s fine – but do it anyway. You don’t have to grovel and weep. Nor do you have to be a wimp and sheepishly tell her how much you need her.
What is needed is just a simple, elegant, gesture. For example, I recently phoned my girlfriend and simply said, “I wanted to call you, I was thinking of you and wondered how your day was”.
You better believe I got a positive response, and it totally made her day.
The thing to remember here guys is that women want to feel special. They don’t need to see tons of cash from you to verify that you like them.
In fact, simply telling her that is WAY more powerful. The way men can become better at communicating with women is by opening up, and speaking more directly about how we feel.
This might be the key to learning how to be romantic with women – being open and communicating with power.
This doesn’t mean turning into a freaked-out new-age “feelings” guy. She definitely doesn’t want that either. But mix this in some, and do so regularly, and she will feel more connected to you.
You will see and feel the difference, making YOUR life better in the process.