Hey man –
As you probably know, there is considerable information online designed to help you get better with women and dating, and to learn how to get a girlfriend.
Helping guys get better with women, dating and relationships is my passion.
For many reasons, it is harder than ever for men and women to get together and when they do, the divorce rate is higher than ever as is evidenced in this infographic:
So, since getting a girlfriend is my main area of focus in helping men, and since I am constantly reading and researching the topic, I decided (finally) to create a post here with my latest and greatest findings.
NOTE: I will keep this post updated so feel free to bookmark it and return to this page whenever you like.
When I left “The Game” in 2004, my mission became to help men meet and date beautiful women on their terms, with the intention of having a healthy, lasting relationship. I’ve realized this dream for myself and want to do everything I can to create this reality for other guys like you.
Most of the ” dating advice” I read is rarely useful in attracting the right kinds of women for relationships – and by useful I mean, it is ineffective in the real world. Frankly, much of it centers around giving you tricks or gimmicks to meet a new woman, or it’s stuff which is designed to sell you something.
So, I’ve created a rather long post here with 24 of my best tips which will help you get a girlfriend. These tips are grouped into 3 broader categories or “phases” which help me organize this information and which should help you determine where you are at on this continuum.
We’ll start from the very beginning, so I will share the tools you need before you even begin meeting new women, I will share tips on how to approach women (easy stuff), what to say on the phone, what to do on the first date, how to go for that important first kiss etc.
This is designed to be a full service resource on finding an awesome, beautiful, girlfriend – soup to nuts.
Let’s get started.
How to Get a Girlfriend – 24 Tips
Phase I – The Inner YOU
We begin with you…who else?
What I’ve learned is that the dating game is about 25% her and 75% you.
So, we’ve gotta start our work on helping you become the most “attractive” man you can.
Tip #1: What is Attraction?
I think it’s important to begin with the most essential ingredient in this whole discussion of getting better with women and that is having a deep understanding of what attraction from a woman to a man actually IS.
What do women WANT from men?
What traits or characteristics do they seek?
Most importantly – what FEELING do they want from a guy?
It all boils down to one easy, simple word:
SECURITY
Women want to feel security from a man. They want you to lead. They want you to decide. They want you to KNOW what you want. They want to feel 100% sure they can trust you.
When we think of men who are successful with women, we often think of guys who embody various types of security:
The rich guy – financial security
The strong guy – physical security
The famous guy – social security
Now, for guys like you and me, these might not be our daily reality (though I think financial security can be…more on that in a second).
But, what we can attain is EMOTIONAL SECURITY.
Let me ask you…
Are you a force in the world, or are you a consequence? Do you act or react?
When things go “wrong”, do you lose your shit? Are you bowed over by the tiniest of life’s winds?
Do you commonly feel “insecure” when in front of very beautiful women?
Security is the key my friend…and the tips below will profoundly help you find the inner resources to feel secure in your life.
For now, I suggest reading this article to learn more about “security” and why it’s such an important concept for men:
The Concept of Security and Why it is Critical to Get
Tip #2: Don’t focus on “building attraction”, rather focus on “becoming attractive”
It’s become vogue to convince men that the dating game is run by guys who know how to ‘build attraction’ in women. This, again, is a highly flawed premise and puts the cart before the horse.
More important, you should become the most attractive version of yourself as is possible. We will get into some of those specific ways further into this post (so, your personal ‘look’, body language, confidence).
Then, on top of that, layer elegant, powerful social skills which will help her feel powerful attraction for you.
To begin with though, you should be thinking about how to become the most attractive version of yourself as is possible.
Here’s an article I wrote recently on that subject which will help you further understand this point:
One Good Dating Tip: Stop Worrying About “Attraction”
Tip #3: What is your Mission?
This is by far the most important question you will ever ask yourself – what is your mission, or purpose, or aim, in life?
(NOTE: I use the words “mission”, “purpose” and “aim” interchangeably throughout this article and my other writings)
What is your mission?
Knowing this, understanding this, and then – most importantly – LIVING by this is the essence of cultivating security in your life.
A man on a mission is attractive to women.
This is the most important point I can ever make to a guy.
Discover your mission or purpose in life, give yourself to it, and many of your dating challenges will evaporate into thin air.
My purpose in life is to live as freely as possible on a daily basis. I aim to become personally free from as many inner and outer encumbrances as is possible, and then teach that to others to help them become more free as well.
To learn your mission or purpose, I have two resources to suggest:
1) If you haven’t yet bought and read David Deida’s seminal work “Way of the Superior Man” download it now by clicking this link. This book laid the foundation for my work and my relationship. It’s the long standing #1 on my running list of 10 essential books for men, and is the most powerful book I have ever read.
2) Watch this terrific TED talk by Adam Leipzig (who produced, amongst other things, “Dead Poets Society”):
Tip #4: The One Crucial Caveat
Your purpose should have nothing to do with women.
So, if you determine your mission in life is to “get better with women”, you’re off on the wrong foot.
It can be ANYTHING else, but it can’t have anything at all to do with women, dating or getting laid – period.
Here’s why:
If Meeting Women, or Becoming More Successful with Women, is Your #1 Priority, You are…
Tip #5: Now, Design A LIFE
You’ve identified a purpose…how does this feel?
It should feel GREAT.
It should feel exciting.
It should feel…motivating.
Now, how do we plan for this mission to be expressed?
What do you need to DO now that can give this aim some energy, life and power?
My suggestion: carve out an hour/day to work on your mission and purpose.
And, most important, SCHEDULE it. Put it on the calendar.
When you do this, something very powerful happens. You begin to design an authentic, meaningful, individual LIFESTYLE.
Tip #6: Speaking of Lifestyle Design…
I always encourage my clients to think about starting their own online business. Even if it never becomes something that provides you with a full-time income, it will supplement your income AND help you further express your mission or purpose in life.
Technology now makes it easier than ever to start an online business, which you can then do from ANYWHERE.
This is why I love it so much – I can work on my business in India, Venezuela, Cambodia, Thailand, Costa Rica…you name it (that’s an actual list of places where I’ve setup my laptop to work by the way).
In the best case, an online business can more than match your paycheck while giving you location independence.
This clearly isn’t mandatory for attracting women, but – I do believe that any expression of autonomy and taking steps towards more and more freedom ARE attractive.
Plus, women CRAVE adventure. They want a man who can show them new things, experiences and locations.
As I always say, unless your world expands hers, she won’t want to be in relationship with you.
So, an easy way to become more attractive is to expand your world.
The world’s thought leader in lifestyle design is Tim Ferriss.
Check out this basic video of Tim to learn more about how & why to do this, and what might await you on the other side:
Tip #7: Become The “Go To” Guy
No matter where you live, there are always new places opening up – bars, restaurants, cool clubs…whatever.
And, most people are DYING for a reason to go, explore and experience these new places.
Become the guy who gives them the reason by subscribing to your local “Time Out” magazine, or regularly scanning the local blogosphere for what’s new in your city, town or community.
Years ago, I had a day job and decided to become the “go to” guy at work. I subscribed to “Time Out New York” and sent out a broadcast every Tuesday letting people know where we were going that Thursday night.
(NOTE: to check and see if there is a “Time Out” magazine in your city, click here)
When this effort started out, I had about 3-4 people going with me each week. After two months, we were up to 10+ on a weekly basis. Not bad eh?
Also, the regulars began to use this as an opportunity to invite others to come along. So, their friends from other businesses in the same community would join us too.
Suddenly, we had 20 or more people heading out on a weekly basis, often with new women in tow who were EASY for me to meet.
This does a few things:
- You become seen as a leader at work
- You create a social opportunity for others, which can effortlessly bring you new women
- It’s WAY easier to meet the others at the bar, club or restaurant if you are there with a lot of people
Become the “go to” guy in other words…and start building a SOCIAL CIRCLE.
Tip #8: Your Social Circle Health Index
Here’s one way I always test the health of my client’s social circle:
First, I ask them who their favorite musical artist is. Let’s say it’s Foo Fighters (for the case of discussion).
Next, I ask if he were to score four tickets to Foo Fighters tonight, would he be able to fill these seats?
In other words, do you have close friends – 3 (+ you) – who are interested in the same thing and would be willing to drop everything and go see this incredible band live, in concert tonight?
If so, the inner circle of your social circle is in good shape.
Next, make a list of your top 10 friends. These should be both men and women and should be people that you would invite to a dinner party.
If you are in good shape after these two little exercises, you’re golden. If not, you need to…
Tip #9: Actively Pursue Interests
A scary amount of guys spend the bulk of their lives creating ruts, furnishing them and then calling them home…
This is boring.
Nothing damages your social circle more than a boring, unfulfilling life.
Life is supposed to be joyous, adventurous and fun. Think about that for a minute.
Joyous, Adventurous & Fun
Everyone has a wild diversity of interests, too many of which are unexpressed. Begin to connect with your interests and then pursue them in the world.
I know a guy who loves to paint and even went to art school to pursue this love.
When he left college, he got pulled into a job and has never left.
So, when he found himself seated across from me some two years ago, I asked him if he had any interests outside of work. He mentioned his past love of art, specifically – water colors.
I encouraged him to get back into this ASAP. He signed up for a class, because he knew that unless he formally structured this, he wouldn’t follow through. So, by signing up for this class, he made himself accountable.
Well, he started going to this class on a weekly basis and guess what? He started meeting people with similar interests. He made friends. He and his classmates started going out for drinks after class every week.
One night, it was someone’s birthday, and they all went out to a restaurant in the village. There, my client met a cute girl who was attending the party with one of his classmates.
He talked to her, got her number…and the rest is history. They recently got married and love each other more than ever.
The secret to this whole think boils down to this simple phrase (which I hide deep into this article for a reason…):
Start doing the things you really want to do, and just meet the other people there doing it with you
So…
One of my passions is encouraging people to break OUT of the mold, do things differently and seize their lives as the precious, beautiful things they are.
Be different.
Be you.
Look within yourself and ask…
What do I love?
Then, DO THESE THINGS and do them A LOT.
Quite honestly, the rest usually takes care of itself.
Women crave a man who is daring and courageous enough to give himself over to something great. Why don’t you do that?
Here’s a guy who devoted his life to pursuing the things, experiences and places he truly loved – one of my hero’s, Mr John Goddard, may he rest in peace:
Phase 2 – Social Skills
Now that you’ve done a little soul-searching, discovered some inner resources, found a mission or purpose, started exploring that and other interests out in the world, it’s time to learn some specifics about social interaction.
Namely – how do we engage women in conversation, how do we demonstrate our personalities to them and what do we do then to express our interest in dating them.
The first thing to cover is meeting new women: how do we do it? what do we say? where do we go?
Tip #10: The Best Way to Meet New Women
98% of all relationships form via lifestyle and social circle, and not via a bold, suave approach at the bar. Nowadays, more people are meeting each other via the internet as well.
But, without a doubt, the best way to meet a new woman is to be introduced to her via a mutual friend using some variation of this phrase:
This is Stephen, that guy I was telling you about
Boom. You’re in.
You come “pre-qualified” (if this were a car loan or a credit card, which it isn’t), and your ability now to attract her and have a first date is virtually guaranteed.
The way this happens is to develop your lifestyle and social circle to such a degree that your female friends want to help.
Women LOVE fixing their girlfriends up with great guys. All you need to do is become a great guy (see Phase I) and then enliven your social circle so that you have a solid, corps of friends that will help you meet new women.
Now, very often, you will find yourself out and about, say working at a cafe, or hanging out with friends after work at a local lounge, or simply waiting in the bank line.
Every guy should have the skill to open a conversation in these situations with a beautiful woman should the opportunity present itself. And to do that, you will need…
Tip #11: The Direct Approach
The only “open” technique you need is a graceful, powerful way to begin a conversation.
Since “The Game” came out years ago, men have become consumed with wanting – dare I say, needing – the next, best gimmick to “open” a conversation.
The more “gimmick”, the less is the “man” – say I.
All you need to do is to say the following with confidence and you’ll be fine:
Excuse me, but I noticed you from across the bar/club/lounge/cafe/park (wherever), and I had to risk complete embarrassment to meet you, my name is ________
There is a lot of gold in this statement, which you can learn more about by reading this post and/or listening to LSA Podcast Episode #18 here (where you can hear me demonstrate this skill).
But, this is the smoothest, simplest way to begin a conversation. Anything more than this is usually a sign that you’re overdoing things to compensate for other, larger issues in your life.
Tip #12: Online Dating Tips
More and more people are getting together using the internet.
Which is great, right?
But, if you’ve ever used an online dating site, you would be in the majority if you felt frustrated over your lack of results, and even quit them altogether.
I had really good success with online dating, mostly due to following the advice of my pal Dave M (more on that in a sec).
But, I learned some very basic things that I want to share with you…and then I want to make a recommendation on where you can go to get some seriously helpful and cutting-edge “insider” info.
For now, some basic things to follow:
First, only upload GREAT pics and the primary photo should be a truly awesome one which clearly reveals your face.
The others should be very diverse, with one showing your full body and another showing you talking with others (hopefully with attractive women).
Second, ALWAYS email women who don’t have pics. Very often, these are the very beautiful ones hiding in plain site.
They don’t post pictures because too many men only contact women based on their looks, and the rare few will actually read the profile.
Be one of the “rare few”, read the profile, and when you email her for the first time, be sure to talk about WHAT YOU READ. OK?
Finally, your first ‘date’ with her isn’t, in fact, a ‘date’…
What it is is a first meet where you and she can really meet each other, and then decide if a real first date is in order. So, always make this first meet something super simple, easy and inexpensive.
Coffee and dessert always worked for me (which you always pay for by the way). Then, if you really want to see her again, set up the real first date and make it something amazing and fun (read further for my first date game plan).
Now, if you want to really crush it with online dating (and why shouldn’t you?), you should meet my pal Dave M.
He’s made himself the go to guy for online dating advice, and has an amazing program called “Insider Internet Dating” which reveals everything you need to know about succeeding with meeting women online.
Here’s Dave M talking about how to write your subject lines when emailing women (his one tip in the first 90 secs of this video might up your response rate 2-300% right away):
~Learn more from Dave M right here: Dave M’s Insider Internet Dating
Tip #13: Meeting Women via Social Circle
There are a few ways that you can influence your social circle so that it will work FOR you and help you meet new women…
First, tell your single female friends that you are dating, and talk to them about your dates. This will encourage them to think of you when they talk about dating with their single female friends.
And let me tell you…
They WILL talk to their female friends about their dating challenges. So, this way, you will come to mind when they think of ways to help their female friends meet great guys.
Also, if you notice a cute friend of a friend named Kristin and want to meet her – the question to ask is:
What’s the story with your friend Kristin?
Finally, I think the BEST way to attract lots of women into your social circle, is to throw great events and parties and preferably in your home.
The dinner party, is the single BEST way to do this…
(And, if your home isn’t setup for a dinner party or isn’t large enough – use a friends! I am serious about that…)
Throw a monthly dinner party where you try out new dishes and then invite your friends to come too. I always do this ‘pot luck’ to ease my own cooking burden…
Then, in your invitation, throw in this amazing phrase:
Feel free to invite someone that no one else knows.
That’s it. This way, you empower the circle itself to work for you, bringing you new people on a regular basis without you now needing to go out and meet them using a cold approach technique.
By being at your party, in your home, with your friends…they are “warm”, and much easier to talk to, attract and connect with.
One final thing…
If a dinner party is too far outside of your comfort zone, throw a birthday party for a friend, or organize a cool outing. Just do something which brings your community together on a regular basis – that’s the key.
For some killer tips on throwing awesome dinner parties, be sure to check out my friend Heather Antonelli’s book “Haute ‘n the Kitchen”. I actually went to high school with Heather, and know she’s loads of fun, an amazing chef and has brilliant ideas for entertaining.
Tip #14: The Most Critical Social Skill You Need Is…
So, you now have three ways of meeting new women – approaching them directly, meeting them online and via your social circle.
Now that you’re standing in front of her, having begun a conversation or being introduced some other way, you now need to TALK to her in a way that creates sexual tension.
I think the worst thing that happens to most guys is when they are put into the dreaded “friend zone” by women.
This is more frustrating than going through the TSA line at the airport!
What is lacking in these situations is SEXUAL TENSION.
And the way we create that is by FLIRTING with her.
Check out my 2-part series on flirting here:
The most critical skill you need to know when looking to improve your success with women and dating is flirting.
It is the difference between gaining her interest and striking out all together. It’s literally make or break.
Tip #15: My Favorite Skill of All – Baiting
One thing I’ve always noticed about the so-called “naturals” out there is that they seem to have this mysterious “gift of gab” with women.
They seem to just talk and talk and talk and suddenly very hot women will chase them.
There is a method to this madness…
What they do is they lead interesting lives and then “hint” at this in their conversations. See if you can pick out the bait (so to speak) in this brief exchange:
ME: (touching her sweater) mmm…cashmere… I love a warm sweater. Growing up in the mountains, I always had such warm clothes for the wintertime. Whenever I wear one now, it reminds me of my youth.
HER: The mountains? Where did you grow up?
ME: Oh, the mountains of North Carolina. I lived there through high school. Growing up in a small town, and particularly when you mother has a central position in the community, you learn a lot about everything – government, the arts, personalities, scandal, commerce – you name it. Small town life makes people very well-rounded.
HER: What did your mother do?
ME: She published the local newspaper. So, we learned about everything first, then communicated it to the community in print. We had some wild experiences in that place! Obviously, though, I left, and ended up focusing on a career in school – which helped me get to where I am today.
HER: Where did you go to school? What are you doing now?
See what is happening there?
I’m hinting at various aspects of my life which she then takes and asks a question of…in other words, this is a way for me to invite her to pursue me.
If she takes the bait, so to speak, she’s interested in you. Baiting is an awesome skill to learn because it allows you to talk with a subtle focus…
Think of it as an invitation from you to her to learn more about your amazing life.
If she takes it, good for her.
I discuss “baiting”, “flirting” and more in this recent podcast episode:
LSA Podcast 004: The Attraction Episode
Tip #16: Own the Spotlight
Many men get nervous in front of women…to you I say – OWN it:
One Good Dating Tip: Take The Spotlight
Tip #17: The Most Important Thing She Needs to Feel BEFORE She Goes Out With You Is…
CONNECTION
Seems so obvious here on this page, right?
The challenge is that for us guys attraction is the most important, followed by connection. For her, connection is first followed by attraction.
So, many guys will be interacting with a woman, and will be sure that she’s in to him (ie – feeling attraction) and will then get her number with the intention of getting her out on a date soon.
Guess what? She’s highly unlikely to accept….
The reason is that she also needs to feel connection with him before she will be willing to set aside a few hours on a date.
The fix here is simple.
When you are talking with her for the first time, focus on building WIDE rapport. Wide rapport is when we establish a couple (say, 3) commonalities with a woman before we ask for her number.
Deep rapport is where we discover one commonality, and then go “deep” with it, talking about this one awesome commonality from every conceivable angle for far too long…
This is a huge mistake!
Instead, probe a bit, ask some questions, lead by “baiting” and uncover three commonalities to insure that first date.
Avoid the pit of deep rapport!
Phase 3 – Dating & Sex
Tip #18: Getting Her Number
I love this awesome technique given here by David D:
Another great line I’ve used before is:
Been great talking with you, but I’ve now gotta get back to my friends (or check on something…or get to a meeting…fill in the blank here), how can we continue this at another time?
This always works. At this point she will give you her number and then…you call her the next day to ask her out.
Play No Games!
Mostly, don’t overthink this one here. If she’s into you and you ask her for her phone number, it won’t matter how you say it.
Just be sure to DO it.
Tip #19: Rules For That First Phone Call
Q: When should you call a woman?
A: THE NEXT DAY
Don’t play around, don’t wait 3 days, don’t play hard to get…it’s all a waste of time.
Call her the next day and move this forward to an actual, physical date.
I suggest you keep the call to no more than 15 minutes (MAX).
You begin the call by using some callback humor from your prior conversation.
This reminds her how awesome and charming you are, and how great your initial chat was.
From here, let her know how awesome your day has been (do NOT whine or go negative on this first call…that’s deadly and no one wants to hear it!) and then, move this towards a date.
I always suggest a guy have something cool to offer up as an option, which might sound like:
“I’m going to this awesome art opening on Saturday night. Want to join? We could grab a meal before or after. In fact, there’s an awesome new Tapas spot right around the corner I’ve wanted to try for weeks now.”
Ultimately, she knows the deal and will expect you to ask her out. It’s normal and healthy human behavior.
Don’t balk or freak out – JUST DO IT.
Tip #20 – Setting Up Your First Date With Her
This is exciting…
You’ve got a first date with a woman and now you’re probably all set to drop down the good old standard date idea…
Dinner & A Movie
Don’t Do it.
If you want to get a girlfriend, it’s far better to show a woman your true personality right from the start rather than only trying to impress her.
As you’ve probably guessed by now, I’m all about breaking the rules, being original, and standing apart from the crowd to make a intriguing impression on a woman.
This is why we want to setup our first date with her so that the activities and places we go make a positive statement about us and our personality.
I think this is best illustrated by way of example. Which of these two do you think makes a more intriguing impression?
1) We go to eat at the local, expensive, steakhouse followed by the latest, greatest Michael Mann film playing at the local cinemaplexopolis (or whatever they are calling them nowadays). OR;
2) We meet at a small, unassuming, local art gallery where my friend Rob has some work being shown. Next, we stroll to a local Mexican takeout which just happens to be the best spot in town. We take our food down to a local pier where is docked an old light boat which has small tables and chairs where people can sit for free and enjoy the sunset.
In example #1, you spend about $200 ($150ish for dinner and $50 for the movie – darn popcorn!).
In example #2, you spend about $4o, all on dinner.
As you’ve probably guessed by how much writing I put into each example, #2 is FAR and away the better option.
First, you have something interactive at the outset which helps to break the ice. You and she might be nervous at the beginning, so having an activity in place at the beginning of the date helps you both relax into the date.
Then, you show her two new places – the restaurant (which just happens to rock food-wise) and the light boat.
You’ve expanded her horizons, shown her your personality, and had a very simple, elegant night.
I’ve never believed in spending tons of money to impress any woman, but I do believe in being inventive and using my imagination to show her my personality.
Set-up your first date this way, and her experience of you and the night will be…priceless.
Tip #21 – That Crucial First Kiss
Your first kiss with a woman should be electrifying. It should absolutely, 100% ROCK.
It should NOT suck.
This is probably the end of the first date, or somewhere towards the end, and you want to leave her absolutely blown away by you. The single best way to do that is to leave her with an amazing smooch.
In the article below, I lay out the BEST way to kiss her & I share my 100% fool-proof “test” to let you know if she’s ready or not:
How to Kiss a Girl: The Steps & The Test
Tip #22 – What Next?
If you leave her with an amazing kiss, reach out to her the next day either via email or text.
Don’t do it right after the date nor should you do it 3 days later. Both are lame and indicated that you are either way too needy or are playing some sort of game with her.
Email or text her the next day something short and sweet like:
I had an amazing time with you last night and want to see you again soon. I’ll reach out in a few days. Have an awesome day.
If this leads to a back and forth, GREAT. If not, don’t sweat it. Call her 2 days later to setup something for soon.
Now, your GOAL after that first date is to know if you are strongly attracted to her.
You should never ask out a woman on a date who you aren’t strongly physically attracted to.
And, by the end of the first date you should know if this physical attraction has evolved into full blown attraction.
In other words – you should be both physically attracted to the woman AND should really be digging her personality too.
If not, don’t send that next text and let it go.
If so, do exactly as I outline above.
When you’re really into someone, dating becomes a process of sharing your world with her and her sharing hers with you.
So, your time spent should be you showing her your favorite places and things to do in your city or community. Use every chance you can to reveal who you are to her.
Take her to your favorite clearing in the forest, your favorite beach for a stroll, your favorite cafe which owned by your college roommate, to your favorite pizza parlor, your favorite…you get the idea.
Let the activities work FOR you – and never, ever, ever do anything standard or ordinary.
Tip #23 – Sex
On the third date, tell her you want to cook for her and invite her into your home.
She will know exactly what this means.
Then, cook your favorite meal for her. Give her an amazing dessert. Plan to “watch a movie” after that. Sit on the couch, turn off the lights, turn on the movie, then kiss her…and after 5-10 minutes, take her by the hand into your bedroom.
If she resists you in anyway, that’s FINE. Simply back off, make her feel comfortable and DISCUSS it.
Don’t push anything in the way of physical contact or sex unless she is reciprocating 100%.
And if she isn’t, calmly and quietly ask her why. She will tell you how she is feeling, which will help her and you connect further and allow her to feel more trust towards you.
If this happens, delay sex. There’s no rush. We’re playing the “long game” here, and there will be plenty more chances for that down the road.
One final thing about sex…
Don’t do it with any woman that you’re not feeling deep attraction towards.
It’s not worth it.
As I see it, these are the 23 BEST tips or techniques that I know of from the outset through making that final, physical connection of having sex.
If you have sex with a woman, we can conclude that the BOTH of you are truly interested in the other.
Tip #24 – One Last Thing
WAIT! I was about to close this article on getting a girlfriend when I remembered something…there’s one final tip.
If you have sex with a woman, ALWAYS call her the next day (don’t email or text in this case, CALL).
You want her to trust you and you want her to know that you weren’t just having sex for the carnal pleasure of it (though, we should hope that was present).
Rather, you want her to know that it meant something to you and that you aren’t playing games…
So, call her the next day.
That’s IT!
My top 24 tips about how to get a girlfriend.
Whew…
Thanks for reading this. And, I’d be remiss to say that you should DEFINITELY grab my eBook “How to Get a Girlfriend”.
You can download it here by clicking this link:
How to Get a Girlfriend book (5th ed)
For a limited time, you will also receive a special lifestyle design audio course called the “Natural Attraction Coaching Sessions” which usually sells for $87…absolutely for FREE.
It’s a real steal, and I hope you’ll get your copy today. I cover all of these points in even greater detail and discuss tons more about social skills, lifestyle and social circle design, personal style, texting women and just tons and tons more.
It’s like 250 pages – so well worth the small investment of $19.97.
Thanks a million for your time, and if you have questions, comments or other feedback for me PLEASE post in the comments section below. I read all the comments on the blog, and will respond to you here.
Good luck!
Stephen Nash
