I briefly watched the Miss Universe pageant last night (anyone else?). I am always amazed at the highest level of physical feminine beauty – there is really something different about it.
The most attractive woman in your neighborhood, or office, or social circle etc might be truly beautiful.
For me, I am more and more attracted to vibe, energy and personality. But, for a night, I did marvel at the extraordinary outward beauty and glamor of the pageant.
Watching this reminded me of the times that I have been successful in approaching and attracting this type of woman – for conversation’s sake only, lets refer to her as a ’10’.
Certainly the five finalists of the Miss Universe pageant were ’10’s’. I do think there is a certain ‘way’ to approach them, and socialize with them, that is sensitive and intelligent to their life.
First off, it might surprise you to hear that the very attractive women out there are often the easiest to approach. Most women of great beauty are so intimidating to men, that the best a guy can do is pick his jaw up off the floor and keep walking.
Truth is, extraordinary beauty strikes the fear of God in many men.
So, if you want to learn how to approach and attract very beautiful women, the most important thing to remember is….relax.
A few years ago, I worked up the nerve to approach a very famous supermodel (who shall remain nameless). I was terrified upon approaching, but forced myself to do it because I knew it would help me build my confidence.
What surprised me was how open she was to having a conversation. She was friendly, humorous and engaging.
The interaction ended when her thug-bodyguard ran me off…but I was so surprised how easy she was to talk to. Interesting, right?
What my friends and I realized later was that women of great beauty are rarely approached by men.
The women hardest to meet are, in fact, those that are a bit below the supermodel level – call them an ‘8’ or a ‘9’. They are less intimidating, and therefore more approachable by men.
They are the ones who will often throw tests at you as fast as a Rivera fastball. Why?
They have had to learn how to deal with men trying to pick them up a lot, and have developed an arsenal to defend themselves from guys only interested in their bodies.
However, the ’10’s of the world are already so fearsome to men, that they tend to get off slightly easier. Of course, they have challenges in different ways, but for now I encourage you to go for it and approach them.
When (and if) you do, be sure not to fawn over their beauty or even remark that they are attractive. This will instantly blow it for you, as you become one of the many who are not able to get past their looks.
If you asked an extremely attractive woman what is it that most upsets her about her beauty, it would probably be that people see her as a hot body, rather than as a real person.
So, remember – relax – and go for it.
And when you do, be sure to talk to the person and not the body.
Ask her questions, chit chat with her, tell her funny stories, probe her opinions on subjects. Be interested in what she is saying rather than her amazing figure.
If you’d like to learn a specific technique for approaching women, try out my direct approach. In this podcast episode, I lay out my exact – and super simple – skill for approaching a beautiful woman.
It’s honest, elegant and smooth…you’ll love it (promise):
Otherwise, good luck & remember, if you do approach a “10” today, pat yourself on the back my friend.
You just joined the smallest group of men on earth…those willing to go for what they really want and deserve out of life.