The BEST way to meet new women – particularly if you want to get a girlfriend – is through your own social circle.
If you want a girlfriend, understanding the dynamics of how to meet women through your social circle is key.
Most guys meet new women through their friends, colleagues and other acquaintances. It is extremely rare to meet someone right for you via a cold approach.
I always liken that to walking blindfolded into a forest and trying to shoot the bird on the highest branch on the third tree to your left behind the large rock encumbered by leaves…
I think you see what I mean.
One aspect to cultivating a thriving and exciting social circle – is leadership.
If you really want to expand your social circle, you will have to take the lead and make it happen.
Your friends may or may not be interested in meeting new people. Your friends may or may not be interested on growing out of their comfort zone.
That is why it is so important for you to be willing to go out alone particularly if it is something you really want to see, or experience. Don’t wait around for your friends. Get active, get out there.
One way to lead is to organize events an activities.
I used to have a loft in Brooklyn, and would throw monthly parties as a way to expand my social circle.
After every party, I would have new numbers of women that I eventually dated or invited to the next party. Had I not taken the lead, and gone through the effort of making the event happen, I would never have met these women.
Also, I made countless new friends in the process. Another fringe benefit to throwing parties is that when you are out meeting new people in other environments, you have an automatic way of keeping in touch with them:
Hey, I am throwing a party next month, give me your email address and I will send you an invite
All of these new people show up to your party, and now you are on your home turf, meeting new people. Everyone wants to meet you because it is your party!
I understand that you may not have the space to throw a party, but most people are able to throw dinner parties, right?
Here is an idea: throw a dinner party, and ask each friend to bring someone completely new who will not know the other people there. I used to do this a lot, and it always makes for an exciting evening.
Also, develop a theme around the dinner. I remember one dinner party I threw was based on a Mediterranean theme, and another was an evening with different stews from around the world.
Use your imagination and have fun with it.
Again, this is a great way to meet new people. Feel free to confide in your female friends that they are more than welcome to bring their single friends along
If you are totally out of ideas, throw a party in another person’s space.
Ask your friends, who happen to have the killer house in the center of town, if they would mind if you threw a dinner party at their house.
You will manage the invites, the decor, and the clean-up, while everyone invited will bring a dish to the night. All they have to do is get dressed and have a good time.
If the party is going to be big, get some friends to help you out. The basic rule of thumb is to have one person helping you for every ten guests.
So, if you can only find three other friends to help you with the party, be sure to have no more than thirty people attend this is supposed to be fun, right?
Lastly, if there is an interesting core of people at your place of employment, yet no one has yet taken the lead to organizing an after work drink/meal/outing etc, become that person.
Work is a great place to start meeting new people, as you are forced to be around each other, and almost certainly know people with which to socialize.
Countless groups go out for drinks after work, to try out a new bar or lounge, or a new restaurant. This is a very solid way to start leading and expanding your social circle.
If you use your imagination, and take the lead, there is no way you can be stopped from expanding your social circle. In fact, one of the nice fringe benefits to leading your social life, is that other people will naturally call you with invitations to their cool events.
Most people are interested in expanding and enhancing their own social circle. If you help them in doing that by inviting them to your outings, they will often reciprocate the invitation.
Taking the lead and getting active is a no-lose situation!
Guys get started TODAY with this if you are looking for a girlfriend, or even just a date, taking charge of your social life is THE way to do it. Use some of these ideas here and put them into action.
Be sure to check out my recent Lifestyle Arts Podcast episode wholly devoted to the broader topic of how to meet women.
I discuss how to meet new women via your social circle, plus tips on meeting women online and how to do cold approaches…it’s loaded!
Enjoy and good luck!