Don’t worry, it happens to each and every one of us. We meet a woman, she is gorgeous, intelligent, and seems into us. And then…
JUST as we are about to move to kiss her, she throws up her hands and delivers the CLASSIC line:
Let’s Just Be Friends
(or, as some of us call it…LJBF)
Ugh…our hearts drop, we feel embarrassed, and our masculinity plummets.
What happened? What went wrong?
There is no fail-safe method to preventing this, but there are some tried and true tips to help stave-off this dreaded LJBF phrase.
Here we go:
1) Be physical
No, I don’t mean wrestle with her, but I do mean for you to TOUCH her.
Perhaps you just met her, and have been talking for 5-10 minutes – touch her lightly on the hand or the shoulder. Or, you are out on your first date, offer your arm to her as you cross the street or subtly place your hand on her lower back.
These are confident, masculine moves, which signal to her that this is a romantic interaction, not a “friendly” one.
2) Be bold
Ultimately, she is looking to you to be both sensitive to her and to the moment. If the window opens for a kiss, be bold, and go for it.
If you allow too many of these to pass, the energy changes, and you classify YOURSELF as a “friend”. Even if she rejects your advance, it is far better to go for it that not.
You get nowhere fast by hoping a kiss magically happens. If she does reject you, this doesn’t mean you cannot try again later.
Also, she may be saving you a lot of time by indicating that she simply is not interested in you. Better to find out now…
3) Challenge her
Too often we are so eager to please the woman that we fail to be ourselves. If we are really focused and moving our lives forward, our attractiveness to women increases tremendously.
A woman, intuitively, biologically, is seeking a man who will be firm and steadfast in his resolve, and his purpose. The way we demonstrate this is in not accepting her at her fullest.
So, if you feel that she is not really living up to her potential, TELL HER.
If she is allowing herself to slip into mediocrity, TELL HER.
Do it tenderly, and with love, but be sure to do it. Don’t accept less than her best.
If you can do these three things with consistency, you will never find yourself hearing those awful LJBF words again…
There will be times when you do not get the girl, but you will always be firm in your purpose maintaining your integrity. And, you will be better prepared for the NEXT girl, just around the corner.
One of the crucial aspects to meeting women who are suitable for a relationship with you is living with direction and purpose.
Often, men who are not really connected with this purpose lack the self-esteem and security to maintain attraction. This is why they often hear our dreaded phrase of the day, “Let’s Just Be Friends”.
Any questions or comments on the LJBF topic, please feel free to post them here!