You’re Boring.
There, I said it.
It’s the elephant in the living room, the piece of news your parents are too scared to pass on, and something that the women you like know, but won’t tell you…
You’re boring.
Here’s the big dating tip for men secret. You ready?
Guys who aren’t boring do well with women; guys who are boring don’t
So, stop being boring.
Do this – take pen to paper for 5 minutes and answer these 2 questions:
1) What does my heart call me to do in this life that I am too scared to do?
This could be: to travel to Sardinia; to learn French; to learn the violin; to learn how to fly an airplane; to learn how to sail; to learn Thai cooking…whatever it is, WRITE IT DOWN.
2) Make a list of the 5 things in your city, town, community that you REALLY want to do in the next 30 days.
Want to try out a new restaurant? Write it down. Want to check out a local minor league baseball game? Write it down. A museum exhibit you want to see? Write it down.
Can you incorporate the answers to these 2 questions into your life? If not, WHY. I bet there is an excuse there covering up a fear.
For many men, the 2 simple written exercises above will be VERY difficult. We live in ruts (I’m no different btw), and we grow comfortable there.
But, if you aren’t seeing the success with women that you want, you *might* need to change some things.The first, most important, most critical piece is to…
GET A LIFE
A real one, one that is YOU, one that brings you happiness and meaning. THEN, invite others along for the ride.
Women want to meet men who ENLARGE their lives, not those who are living small too afraid to venture into the world. If your life is smaller than hers, why would she want to join YOU?
Stop being boring. It’s the best dating tip I can give you (or any guy). You’ll be happier and feel more vital as a result, AND you’ll be more attractive to women.
It’s a “win-win”.
For follow-up reading, check out this post on female psychology to learn more about what is attractive to women and how you can cultivate these characteristics.
It isn’t rocket science, but it is a bit of work…
Which makes it worth it.
