Looks don’t matter, but, your “look” does.
Looks are what our genetics have given us, which we have very little control over. Guys who are blessed with good looks are said to be “genetically attractive”.
The fact is though, there are many good-looking guys who struggle with women.
I have also met others not so genetically fortunate who have massive success because they understand what looks good on them, and how to present themselves in an attractive way.
These guys are said to be “physically attractive”.
If you had to choose one over the other, it is FAR better to be physically attractive.
AND it is well within the realm of your control. Just follow some very easy tips here and you will be on your way.
Personal style for men tends not to change. Whereas with women, their fashion can be diverse year to year and season to season. Cultivating a solid “look” for ones self is skill #7 in my longer series on meeting women, and listing the specific useful skills you could learn from “The Game” and “pick-up” (without needing to become a creepy “pua”).
The physically attractive men are the ones who understand that they have power over their image and look, and choose to exercise that on a daily basis. By taking care of their look, they communicate class and self-esteem to those they come in contact with.
Also, there are plenty of guys out there blessed genetically who go unnoticed because they are totally clueless when it comes to looking cool.
Time and time again, I meet guys who have great personalities, and have a lot to offer women, but they simply have no idea how to present themselves in a powerful, attractive way.
Owning this skill would automatically help them feel better about themselves, filling them with confidence and dramatically increasing their likelihood of success instantly!
I once was out shopping with a client, and asked him to take a trip around the store and pick out some items that he thought were cool.
He returned with some pretty telling items – some boring jeans, some shirts which did not work for his body type and skin, and a hideous jacket that might look good on someone 15 years his junior (is this you??). So, I told him to put the items he selected away, and I went around with him, and started buyoemsoftonline asking questions.
His answers led me to believe that he saw himself as “just an average guy”. I have heard this all too often when working with men needing help with their image.
They have lost a sense of uniqueness and purpose causing them to accept fitting-in as a way of life. Part of what I love to do with guys is to help them live beyond the small box they have created entitled “my world”.
If you want great relationships with quality women you must get your life in order. One of the critical things to do is to think outside of this “box” and build a look that works for you.
Leave behind the “average guy” image which only helps you fade into the background. By the time the afternoon was over, this guy was shocked, surprised and thrilled.
He instantly felt more confident in knowing he looked good, and felt good. His look was coming together!
There are three principles to guide your choices when building your look and enhancing your image:
1) Does it help me feel more powerful and confident?
2) Will it help me achieve the aims I strive for in life?
3) Does it work for my body-type and personality?
Filter every clothing choice through these three criteria and you will begin cultivating an empowered, conscious, specific, look that works for YOU.
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