There you are, walking down the street, and you lock eyes with an attractive woman. You both hold this stare for as long as you possibly can.
Then, you pass her, and after a few paces, glance back only to find she has done just the same thing.
Your heart skips a beat, and you wonder, should I talk to her?
If you are like most people you keep walking, regretting that you didn’t take the obvious opportunity to go for it.
Why is it that we receive an OBVIOUS social signal from a person we are clearly attracted to, only to find ourselves walking away from a golden opportunity?
Part of it is conditioning and part of it is fear. Fear, a most devastating force, trains us over time not to trust ourselves. If we did, we would know the door was wide open, and would walk up and start a conversation.
Think about how many similar opportunities you have had, and with a simple change in your thought pattern, what kind of difference in your life would that mean?
If a girl gives you eye contact, and holds it for just a bit longer than is the custom, it means EXACTLY what it means when you do the same thing she feels that jolt of attraction. She sees you, and feels her chemistry change in that moment.
It is a sign she likes you…
It is the magic of attraction – when you see each other, and something in you says yes. What usually happens is that we pass these open doors all the time. Sometimes it is not feasible to approach the girl.
We might have a meeting, or might be running late to work. There are many viable reasons not to stop and talk. I think most of us intuitively know what this magic moment means, and we simply don’t trust ourselves to go for it.
Nike said it best – Just Do It.
Another definite sign she likes you is if she smiles at you. Sounds obvious – and it is obvious.
She wouldn’t smile at you if she wasn’t attracted to something about you. I once knew a guy who was above average in attractiveness, who had smiles from women all day long he thought they were just being nice.
In fact, this is an opening to begin a conversation. It is a signal that her first impression of you is a good one, and that she would be interested in meeting you.
Let’s say you are in the office cafeteria, having lunch with some colleagues. You are chatting away, when someone at a nearby table catches your eye. You and she look at each other a bit longer than is normal in such a situation.
You guys have all been there – you see her, she sees you, and there is a moment, albeit brief, where you really see each other. Your heart likely speeds up in that moment, your breath shortens, there is something electric about it.
Both she and you decide to allow the other to notice that you are being checked out. This is a great signal that there is some initial attraction between you and a woman.
Another way to tell if a woman is into you initially is to notice her body language and behavior.
If you see that she goes out of her way to pass your table, or office, or your location, so that you can check her out – that is a good sign.
I recall once being at a restaurant with some friends of mine. I had made eye contact with a woman a few tables away. She kept getting up for one reason or another, and each time she would she would glance our way, and then parade by our table to reach her destination.
A friend of mine pointed this out to me. I then made my introduction to her later in the night, and eventually dated this woman.
Also, if a woman is in your vicinity, and she opens her body language to you by facing you, this also is a good sign that she is open to meeting you.
Imagine you are in a group of people, carrying on a conversation. When you speak, she faces you with her body. But, when someone else speaks, she turns her head to hear them, but her body still faces you. This indicates that she is more interested in talking with you than with anyone else in the group.
Also, pay attention to your body language in social situations. When you see someone that you find attractive, don’t you subtly open your body to them?
What we are doing is signaling the other person, subconsciously, that we are interested in having a conversation with them.
These subtle cues occur within social settings constantly. If you can recognize them, you will begin to see that women are communicating with men via their behavior and body language all the time.
These are signs that, initially, she feels some attraction for you. By noticing these, you will feel a greater amount of confidence when making your introductions later.
One last point on these initial signs: if you notice a woman, and she does not signal you in any of the above ways, it might simply mean that she is preoccupied or that she simply hasn’t noticed you.
In any event, go ahead and make your approach, what do you have to lose? There are no hard and fast rules here as that would be way too easy, and therefore, unrealistic. Go for it anyway.
With some good conversational skills and a solid personal style, your first impression will be great anyway.
Your chances are then very good for entering into a positive interaction with the woman you have approached.
The 25 Signs She Likes You:
1) Repeatedly glances at you from across the room
2) Walks by your location, going out of her way to be noticed by you
3) Smiles at you
4) Positions herself so that her body is open to you, wanting you to see her
5) In a tight environment (say, by the bar or on the subway), will subtly, and purposely, bump you to get your attention and prompt an excuse me
6) Stands close to you, subtly encroaching on your personal space
7) Repeats herself, and talks about boring things to keep the conversation going
8) Asks you personal questions
9) Ignores her friends or cellphone to keep talking with you
10) Touches you in any way while speaking with you
11) Compliments you
12) Talks about you in any way to other people
13) Introduces you to her friends
14) Flirts with you
15) She asks you her name early in the conversation
16) Brags about something in her life, trying to impress you
17) Laughs at things you say
18) Talks for a longer than normal amount of time
19) She fills in awkward pauses
20) She agrees to spend time alone with you; even a small side conversation at a party, bar, or other social setting
21) Asks if you are single
22) Fixes her hair, clothes, makeup, etc
23) Plays with her hair while talking with you
24) Agrees with everything you say
25) Has that doggy dinner bowl look – her eyes glaze over and her lower lip pouts. This one’s a biggie!
You don’t have to witness all of these to know if she is into you or not. As few as one or two may all you get.
That is why it is important to pay attention to her behavior, as well as what she says.