I was working with a client 2 weeks back, and he had a common question that I thought might be of benefit…
Here was his question, and do you relate?
Are there SIGNS she gives when she wants you to kiss her?
I bet you have had this question flash through your brains at least ten times in your life.
It usually happens when you’re on that first date, it’s gone well, and there is a mutual attraction. Maybe a couple of hours into the evening, there is a pause…
Is she ready now? Is she giving me “a signal”?
In my experience, this usually means she IS ready.
At that moment, there is something chemical that sparks between you. It is probable that she feels it too, and that the window is open. But, it can close!
The average guy usually hesitates, questions, analyzes and overall doubts the validity of the fact that she is READY.
This is merely an example of instincts in collision.
On the one hand, we have desire – wanting to kiss her.
And on the other, we have fear – but what if she rejects me?
There you have it – man’s war with himself in a nutshell.
You like her & desire her yet you simultaneously fear the ego-smashing that could accompany a rejection. Thus, you hesitate.
A third factor here which is the most important one, and which is usually (if not always) overlooked is INSTINCT.
You have to learn to trust your instincts.
The idea of is she ready to be kissed?? would never flash through your brain if she wasn’t already subtly signaling to you that she IS!!
So, the challenge is to trust yourself enough and go for it.
In terms of specifics…I won’t leave you hanging.
Here is a quick list of signs she wants you to kiss her:
- Has she had a good time on the date? Laughed at your jokes?
- Have you made physical contact with her? Held her hand? How did that go?
- What’s the energy like? Do you “sense” that she’s glad to be with you and enjoying your company?
- What about the eye contact – have you held her gaze for just an extra moment and has she stayed with you?
These are just a few, but usually one of these will give you the answer you seek.
BUT, even if they aren’t present, and you feel the urge to kiss her, I urge YOU to go for it. Sometimes women are just as insecure and bashful as guys and she might be nervous around you. (imagine that?)
The key is: GO FOR IT. There is no easy, simple way. She is not going to tell you to kiss her (well, usually). So, you’re better off going for it.
Truth be told, women are attracted to guys who have this attitude. Hesitation, doubt and insecurity are NOT attractive.
Also, if she is not ready, and you have misread the situation, so what?? So, you lean in and go for the kiss and she leans away – big deal!
If you can roll with it by laughing it off, she will gain attraction for you – that’s right, by being bold, your value increases in her eyes!
So, the next time you go to kiss her, do it with confidence, and chances are, she’ll be ready this time.
And, if she isn’t, you may be learning that she gives off mixed signals, or that the two of you may not have any chemistry – good things to know, don’t you think?
Plus, if a few of these moments pass without any moves by you, she will begin to wonder if you are really into her, and she might become less attracted to you because you are so indecisive and safe. This is how the window can close, and why it is important to go for it.
So, the rule I want to establish with each of you is:
If you wonder if she is ready to be kissed, find out for real, and go for it. Look her in the eye, a bit longer than usual, and move to kiss her. I bet you’ll be nicely surprised when she reciprocates, and if she doesn’t – you just learned something valuable about her, while enjoying the thrill of being alive and taking a confident risk.
You have nothing to lose.
Oh, and be sure to check out my “kiss test” post to know with 100% certainty if she wants you to kiss her (and I also offer some tips on how to kiss her too). Check that out here:
Enjoy!
Stephen Nash
