As you might know by now, I’m deeply focused now on radical lifestyle change.
I’m very happily married, and deeply in love with my wife. I have a good life – no, a REALLY good life – here in NYC (and, soon, in San Diego).
I do work I love, and am my own boss. I can pretty much do what I want, when I want, and for however long I want it. But, am I truly “free”?
I’m interested in rules. But mostly, I’m interested in breaking them. It’s what drove me to Project Hollywood, and literally informs every decision I make. I will ask myself, “What’s the rule here, and why are we following it?” I often break it consciously, if there is no good reason to do it. Very often, […]
Everyone has a blind spot. And in the area of dating and women, many men have very prominent blind spots. By definition, we might be unable to diagnose ourselves. But, if we can generate an interesting discussion on blind spots we have noticed in OTHERS, we might be helped to take a different look at […]
Break-ups happen ALL THE TIME, so it’s normal and common for you to want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back. I get a lot of email questions from guys (for which I am very grateful), but this one has to be the most common one I receive. The scenario goes a little something like […]
Life is short. It takes balls to live the life you deeply feel is your own. It’s OK to be afraid. It’s not OK to let it win, or much less, let it win day, by day, by day, by day, by day…
It is a question of carving out some space of your own or morphing yourself into the tiny space given.
You are either a force, or a consequence.
What are you?
In socializing, and in particular with women, you have to be willing to take up space.
Being confident enough to take the spotlight for a minute or two is strong and healthy. You must be willing to do this.
In the beginning, it might be uncomfortable but it does improve over time.
If you could speak to or write a note to your younger self…what one piece of advice would you offer?
More specifically:
If today were your 16 year-old son’s birthday, what one piece of advice would you give him? This can relate to women, life, career, family, etc. But, you can only provide ONE piece of advice.
What would it be?
An actual question I received from a client not too long ago (paraphrased): “Stephen – I have to make a decision. I’ve saved around $3500 and wonder if it would be better to either take a seduction training course, or to travel to Kenya with a group and climb Mt. Kilimanjaro. What do you think?” […]
Do you remember the “Think Different” Apple campaign from the 1980s?
Well, if you follow this blog with any regularity, you’ve probably figured out by now that my main emphasis is to help you SEE that the key to attracting great women is to become a great man…and if you aren’t attracting the kinds of women you want…then you’ve got some work to do.
On the surface, Seth Godin’s great book Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?, has absolutely NOTHING to do with dating.
It’s true, it doesn’t dive into techniques for meeting women, where to take a woman, when to kiss her etc.
BUT, what it does do is point you (or anyone) in the direction of being happier, more fulfilled, more generous and more…YOU.
