I devour books, and so should you.
I worked with an awesome guy over the weekend, and I recommended a few great books to him to read to further his studies of social dynamics, masculinity, dating & relationships.
I decided then to post a list of these books, for your interest.
YES, I recommend some books that might seem in conflict with what I teach.
I am not naive enough to believe I have all the answers, and I do think that pieces of what others offer are useful (see: Mystery).
If you’re like me, when you get interested in something, ANY good read is worth the buck.
So, I wanted to give you MY top 10 list of GREAT dating books for men. Some of these deal with dating, seduction and pick-up, while others focus on fashion, sex, or spirituality.
Here’s the list…enjoy!
(NOTE: This is revised as of April, 2015)
10) The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Tim Ferriss.
It might seem odd that I include this on the list here, but allow me to explain. A big principle I teach is autonomy.
This book is about gaining ownership over your time and money so that you aren’t pray to a boss, or someone leaching your time away from what you truly want out of life.
He outlines what to do step-by-step. If you really want a full life (which is ATTRACTIVE to women by the way), then this book is your indispensable guide.
9) Dressing the Man: Mastering the Art of Permanent Fashion by Alan Flusser.
This is THE best book on timeless fashion for men.
Need to tie a bow-tie?
Want to know when to wear a vest?
The pictures and illustrations are unforgettable. Plus, this will inject some serious “classy” into your living room.
8) The Power of Imagination by Neville Goddard.
Really, the BEST book I’ve ever read which helps guys (or anyone) learn to think better and develop real confidence.
You’ll need to keep an open mind when he breaks down The Bible, which he does in truly a beautiful way. But, his description of how to acquire that which you want is stellar.
Basically, to embody the feeling of having already that which you wish for. As I read this for the first time, I realized that this was easily the best description of “confidence” I had ever heard.
Walk forward assuming what you want is right around the corner…amazing.
7) The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed by, who else, Mystery.
Good to see that some literature from the PUA has gone mainstream. I’d caution you about this book in one way – he’s been picking up women for over 15 years…and is truly amazing at it.
So, some of this might not apply to your situation. If you’re a guy who has ever desired to become a “pick-up artist” though, start here.
Seriously, Mystery has conceived of much of what other guys now teach, so he should be required reading for any guy looking to improve his social and dating life.
6) Art of Seduction by Robert Greene.
This book is terrible if you’re looking for ACTION items, but it is a wonderful non-fiction read and can greatly assist you in seeing what is possible. Also, some of the attitudes described of the historical figures are amazing.
This book can help you develop a larger view of what can actually happen between men and women, rather than what has always happened for you.
5) The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss.
It’s a fun read. It’s a wild read. And it correctly illustrates the pitfalls to picking-up women if you aren’t careful and slip out of balance in your life.
I think Neil’s writing is a bit overdramatic and unpolished (plus he forever ruined my scarf-wearing…j/k).
But, overall, it’s VERY entertaining and after you read The Game, you’ll have to wash your brain with…
4) How To Get A Girlfriend by Stephen Nash.
Of course I had to put my own book in here. If you are interested in real, intuitive and actionable advice about dating, women and relationships then I urge you to get it now. It should be your second read, after The Game.
In the book, I outline the 7 steps to getting a lasting, healthy relationship with a woman you are truly attracted to. I also share every effective social technique I’ve ever learned – so, things like approaching a woman, flirting, connecting, getting the phone number etc.
It combines very practical, actionable technique with my powerful, overarching philosophy on cultivating masculinity, presence and confidence.
(Note: the book is also available via Amazon/Kindle, iTunes and as an audiobook. If you buy it from my website here, I will throw in a cool, audio program as a bonus gift – immediate download)
3) Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage by Alfred Lansing.
As a guy, we all need role models. When I became interested in improving my dating and relationship life, I also got interested in learning more about what it means to be a man.
This book was recommended to me as it shows exactly what it means to be a man on a mission, to be a guy who truly knows and owns his purpose and mission in life.
These things are critical to get handled if you want to be more attractive to women.
2) Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha.
Are we truly monogamous beings?
Is sex with one partner normal for primates?
This is a very controversial book, but absolutely brilliantly researched and presented. By studying the habits of our most closely related neighbors in the genetic spectrum, we are taken on a road trip of sexual understanding unlike any book before it. From the book jacket:
In Sex at Dawn, the authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.
This is the BEST book you can read about becoming a man, and being attractive to women BAR NONE.
I have read it three times, and will read it again. When I travel with my girlfriend, I always pack this book. I even purchased it for my dad on his 64th birthday.
The chapters are short and sweet, and the language is direct, challenging and immensely hopeful. If you haven’t read this book yet, purchase it today and put down everything else you are reading. I am dead serious it is that important.
If you have additions, suggestions, thoughts please feel free to email them to me or just post them here to the blog.
Enjoy the reading list!