I always prefer to keep things simple on a first date, yet purposely avoid the standard date idea of “dinner and a movie”.
It’s not a terrible structure, but there’s a better way – one where the choices you make allow you to stand apart from the throng of single men out there.
So, when guys ask me where to go on a first date? I always teach them structure and ideas as opposed to telling them the exact cafe, restaurant or bar to hit.
On a first date, it’s actually really important where you go and what you do – it’s a first impression, of sorts, and you want it to be good:
Here is a guideline I ALWAYS follow (particularly for a first or – even better – a SECOND date):
Go Off The Beaten Path
Recently, I took my girlfriend to a relatively unknown restaurant in a small section of Brooklyn. I also never told her where we were going.
It was a “surprise”, and she loved it.
I had done my research and located a fairly new Italian restaurant in Sheepshead Bay (where?? That’s the POINT).
I sent her clues throughout the week by email/text, and she never guessed it. The tension and excitement built straight up to Saturday when I arrived in her car with print-outs of Google maps and refused the help of her GPS.
We ended up having a GREAT time, and were both excited throughout the night for “what’s next”.
Oh, and the food was awesome.
I used Yelp to find the place, and have since returned the love with a positive review of the restaurant. Yelp can be a great forum to find new restaurants etc, and be sure to leave a detailed review of your experience for the next guy who comes along.
So, the point here is…BE DIFFERENT.
Don’t go to the normal spots, the well worn path. Instead, become adventurous and find something new.
But, be smart about it and be sure in advance that it will be good by doing some solid due diligence.
By being willing to try something new and inject some excitement into the date you show her something very important about yourself.
YOU are different, adventurous and FUN.
You stand out, and make a very strong impression. Where you go says a LOT about you as a potential romantic partner.
In other words, don’t be like the other guys.
Also, by making it a surprise, I test to see if she’s open to that and can give herself to a fun little adventure sponsored by…me.
This is a HUGELY important characteristic that I always look for in a girl – is she flexible, adventurous and FUN. Setting up a date in this way will reveal this to me right away. VERY important in my book.
Finally, isn’t having fun the whole point? If you can’t laugh and have fun with a girl, then why bother…say I. Move on to the next one.
Good luck and have FUN on a first date…that’s what she really wants.
To check out my complete list of first date tips check out my “Lucky 7” post right here:
First Date Tips – Stephen Nash’s Lucky 7
P.S. I thought you should know that the girl I took out on this date eventually became my wife…so I know this idea works. Go for it!